First, you should suggest that the date take place in a very public area. Restaurants are a great place to start because they give you a chance to converse so that you can get to know each other a little better. You can also suggest other public places as long as they are not too secluded. Concerts work well, for example, but walks in the park are not recommended since there are often wooded areas in which your date and you will be alone.

Prepare your personal safety by telling a trusting person whom you are close with (like a family member or best friend) that you are going on a date. Tell them to call you periodically to check on you. If you’ve exchanged telephone numbers with your date, make sure you leave a copy of the number with that trusting person. (Do this for possible emergency situations).

You should also suggest planning your date during the daytime rather than at night. You will be able to see one another much better and it is less dangerous and less likely that a predator could victimize you in the daytime, since there are other people around. In either case, always find a good common meeting ground for your date. It is also dangerous to get into a car with someone that you have not met. Remember that it is easy to lie online. It is easy to continue to lie in person as well. As you know, it takes time to get to know someone. Therefore, it takes time to learn to trust in them as well. Becoming familiar with your date’s friends, family, co-workers and personal habits is part of the foundation of learning to trust and is a big part of what dating is all about.

You can also try a group dating. Invite one or two of your friends and have your date do the same. You can then go to a number of places such as an amusement park or a shopping mall. Your friends will then carefully monitor the situation so that you are sure to be safe. There is always safety in numbers. Remember, if you are not taking your friends, you should tell someone where you are going and when you should be back. Always carry a cell phone to be sure.

When you are feeling more comfortable with a person you can move on to more secluded dates. However remember to keep your guard up at all times until you know the person in real life. Unfortunately, many people have become victims of rape, kidnap, and even murder. There are predators online. Use good common sense when you are meeting someone for the first time so that you are not another statistic to read about. Sorry, but I had to be very direct and blunt concerning this topic.

Here is one of Seeking Cupid’s Tips on getting a better response from interested members and following through with dating.

How to get a better Response from your ad

Placing an ad in our site is free; however, it shouldn’t be done off the cuff.

Successful online dating starts with the first moment someone sees your profile. It’s the most important moment in online dating.

Each ad should be well thought out and reflect just what you are seeking. Be honest and straight-forward. Don’t lie to the members of the site and pretend that you are someone that you are not, because someone looking for who you really are will miss you! This wastes your time and everyone else’s.

A picture is worth a thousand words. The ads of people who submit pictures get approximately 12 times the hits of those without pictures. You do not have to submit a picture with your ad, but it might be worth considering. At SinglesCrowd, we give you the opportunity to upload several large images and one preview image with your ad.

When you receive a response to your ad, it is either going to spark your interest, or not interest you at all. Even if the e-mail doesn’t light your fire, it is always common courtesy to send a response, even if it is to say “Thanks, but no thanks.” After all, this person was interested enough in you to send you an email, so take it as a compliment and send back an acknowledgement that the email was received. If the email does light your fire, then respond to it and enjoy!

Responding to an Ad

When you are searching our database, you need to realize that not everyone will be responding and not everyone will be interested in what you have to offer. So it is a good idea to respond to more than one ad at once. There can be a certain feeling out process to make sure this is a right rendezvous for all parties. While it can work, don’t go overboard with your first email. Unless specifically asked, don’t go into long tirades about what a good lover you are and what you will do with him/her/them when you meet. Try and introduce yourself and let the advertisers know a little bit about you. Just as someone putting in an ad should submit a picture, so should you send a picture when you respond to the ad.

Once you receive a response to your email it is time to start giving more information. This may be a good time to talk on the phone to get a better feel for the person. Then, when you feel comfortable, it is time for the meeting.

Meeting your Date

The first meeting is a big step. This should be fun, but also bear in mind that safety is an issue. That is why we recommend that the initial meeting be at a public place and either during the lunch hour or right after work. If things go well, you can arrange for an immediate, more intimate setting, or you can schedule one at a more convenient time and place.

Common Courtesy

This should be the norm, but unfortunately this sometimes gets lost in the shuffle. The first thing to remember is that NO MEANS NO. Just because you meet doesn’t not mean that he/she/they have to like you and want to take things further. Things may change after a face-to-face meeting, so if the other party wants to break it off, do so. This is not a personal insult. Just smile, accept it and go on to the next one.

If you are invited to the other party’s home, remember that you are a guest. You don’t live there. Dress appropriately for the situation, bring a gift, don’t put your feet up on the coffee table, etc. Just because you are entering into a possible relationship doesn’t mean you have to be an idiot. Good manners go a long way in breaking through those first-time jitters. If you respect the other party, just as you would at work or school, you will do fine, and you will never lack new dating opportunities. Word gets around, and the fools suffer while the good ones are in high demand!

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